You’ve leveled up—so why does it feel so lonely at the top? In this introspective episode, April Shprintz explores the emotional twists that come with mastering your mindset and transforming your life. Discover why feeling alone is a common phase when you’re evolving and how it signals the start of finding a new, aligned community. Learn the keys to embracing solitude, becoming your own best friend, and attracting the relationships that support your highest self. Join us to turn loneliness into an opportunity for deeper self-connection and growth.
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I Mastered My Mindset & I’m Lonely – Now What?
I am so glad you’re here. There are a few things when you start this mindset journey that can take you by surprise. They certainly took me by surprise. One of them was the fact that it made me much more of a hermit. If you know me, you know that I tend to like to hermit anyway or be with the people I’m really close to. You probably also know that there are people who can get me out and about. You know who you are.
When I first started working on my mindset, like really doing some dedicated work, I wanted to stay alone a lot more. Part of that was because I had mastered staying in a good place and reframing my thoughts by limiting my interaction with the outside world in a lot of ways. I didn’t watch the news. I didn’t listen to the radio. I stayed away from people who didn’t have good mindsets until I felt good about my own mindset.
Once I mastered it and felt like I could go out into the world, I thought, “Everything will be great. It’ll all be perfect.” A lot of people who work on their mindset with me as clients or who tune in to the show and write in say, “I thought everything was going to be great once I got a handle on it. That happened faster than I thought, but then, I was lonely. Now what?” That happened to me too.
Loneliness
This is why you in that moment or in those days, weeks, or months feel lonely. It is because you have become the next-level version of yourself. Not everybody who is in your old life is going to fit in your new life. It’s not good or bad. It is. Some of us are really afraid of that. We have lifelong friends. We think, “They have to be in our life always.” At the end of the day, you want to be surrounded by people who make you feel like the best version of yourself. It may not mean that you never see those friends. They may not be in your life as much.
You have become lonely because you have become the next level version of yourself, and not everybody who was in your old life is going to fit in your new life. Share on XI say to a lot of folks that as you keep elevating and you get higher in your mindset, your success, and your happiness, there are people who vibrate out. Sometimes, they’re the people you least expect. Sometimes, the people who stay and are still a part of your life are also the people you least expect because they elevate with you, whether it’s because of your example or their own choices.
Your Own Best Friend
When you’re lonely, you are usually in one of those in-between phases where you haven’t fully grown into the new friends and people that you’re going to have in your life and you haven’t fully outgrown the other people but maybe they’re not around you as much so you feel lonely. This is how you fix that. This is where you double down on being your own best friend. This can be scary and feel weird, but a lot of times when we’re looking outside of ourselves for people to help us feel like we aren’t lonely and we have companionship, love, acceptance, and friendship, what we really want is our own acceptance, our own self-love, and our own approval. That’s what we’re asking for.
Spending that time with yourself, accepting yourself, and knowing yourself will make you feel far less lonely. Here’s why that matters. Other friends, new people, new relationships, all of those things are going to come in for you. You are going to draw in whatever you’re putting out into the world. Imagine when you are happy with yourself, you feel good about yourself, and you are putting that energy out into the world. That attracts more people like you.
Imagine when you are happy with yourself, you feel good about yourself and you are putting that energy out into the world that attracts more people like you. Share on XIf you go out looking for folks before you’ve solved for that within and you’re looking for friends because you’re lonely, you’re sad, or you want somebody to do something with, you’re not going to attract the same level of people. When you’re lonely because your life is improving and it can be lonely, you become highly elevated. You may have a smaller circle of friends but they mean more to you. If you’re willing to let go of what’s behind you, that’s when all of the amazing things can come into your life and make it incredible.
I’ve been through this. I’ve been in that place where I’m so afraid to let go of the old things because they’re all that I’ve known. The moment that you stop gripping them and you let go of the old people, the old places, and the old things, those new things start coming in. It may not be a brand-new friendship or a brand-new relationship, but you watch. You’ll get what I love to call universe winks, something that lets you know those things are on the way. The more time you spend becoming your own best friend, the less you’ll ever have to worry about being lonely again. Here’s to your success.
