April’s convinced mindset is the foundation of pretty much everything, including happiness. When asked why, she has two responses, both of which she shares with you in today’s episode. Take the advice she gives you today, and you’ll experience life in an easier, better way. You’ll also find solutions to problems faster. And if you’re one of those dopamine-drive goal seekers who reaches your destinations then feels a sense of letdown, you’ll understand why. Her thoughts on this might surprise you. But they’ll help you enjoy your goal so much more once you reach it. She’ll also point you in the direction of a free resource that will help you double your wins, and your happiness! Sound interesting? Then click here now to listen to today’s episode of Winning Mindset Mastery. To your success!
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Why Mindset Is The Foundation Of Happiness
Thank you for joining me. I had someone ask me why I always talk about mindset as the foundation of everything. That’s a reasonable question and I have two different answers to that. They go together. The first one is a mindset or having a winning mindset. Seeing everything in the world that happens to you as happening for you instead of to you empowers you in a way that allows you to not only experience life in an easier and better way but also find solutions faster and get to a better place more quickly when you’re having struggles or experiencing a situation that would be challenging for anyone. It will be challenging for you but for much less time.
The second one is there are so many things that we chase in life, whether it’s goals, a relationship, things, a house, a car, a certain job or whatever it is that we are chasing. When you think about it, you are chasing it because you truly believe that you will feel better when you have it. “I’ll be happy when.” How many times have you said that? I have said it lots of times. I still say it. I catch myself, “I’ll be so happy when this project is over. I’ll be so happy when I go on this vacation. I’m going to be so happy when I can spend some time doing this.”
Happiness: We chase things because we truly believe that we will feel better when we have them.
The thing is what is driving that feeling of, “I’ll be happy when,” is a chemical in your brain called dopamine. It is an excellent motivational chemical because what it does is rev you up about what something is going to be like in the future and gets you to want it, pursue it and go for it. Dopamine is also responsible for why when you first meet someone you’re interested in, nothing they do is wrong and every moment is magical. You have this amazing feeling when you’re with them.
That chemical can sustain a relationship for quite a while in the early stages and then it pretty much wears off by the two-year point, which is why there are folks who get married within that first two-year point and then have a tougher time in that relationship after because there is no more dopamine sustaining that relationship. They’ve got to build that friendship and some reliance on other things so that they make it through. It’s a reason that you see folks that stay in two-year or less relationships a lot. The first two years are awesome and then you see them go to somebody else because they feel like they have “lost” that spark. What they have lost is dopamine motivation.
The crazy thing about dopamine is that it motivates you to get there. It doesn’t do anything to allow you to enjoy it when you are there. If you’ve ever had that experience of chasing a goal or something you want badly and then once you get it, you’re like, “I thought this would be a bigger deal. I thought this would feel different,” or you’re that person who feels like they go from goal to goal and climb those mountaintops but they never enjoy the view, then you’re someone who is very dopamine-motivated. That’s what is happening to you.
Happiness: The crazy thing about dopamine is that it motivates you to get there. It doesn’t do anything to allow you to enjoy it when you are there.
I am someone who’s hugely dopamine-motivated. Working on my mindset and developing that winning mindset has helped me to enjoy being and release some of those other brain chemicals that allow you to be happy in the moment. Here’s what’s interesting. If you are able to focus on your mindset and work on your appreciation and gratitude for things the way that they are, you not only empower yourself but you’re going to be happier before you get that thing.
The funny thing is nothing, no achievement or no situation makes you happy. Happiness is a choice. It doesn’t always feel like it but it is. If you find the way to choose that happiness and what it is that you want by working on your mindset, your experience of having those things will be so much better. You will enjoy them so much more. You will get happier. It won’t be, “I’ll be happy when.” It’s, “I’ll be happy and.” “That’s great, April. I got it. How do I do this? What are the steps?” I’ve got you. There’s a free gift that talks about helping you double your wins in seven days. It will also help you double your happiness.
No achievement or situation makes you happy. Happiness is a choice. Share on XDownload that free gift. It has a few short practices that you do every day. It also has a guided meditation that I take you through that is very helpful as well. Even doing those exercises will help you get there. They’re going to build that foundation of choosing happiness. It is a combination of taking down your wins every day, big and small and taking some time to build some positive momentum by having gratitude and appreciating things about your life as they are. It can be incredibly powerful. If you practice this for seven days, you will feel differently. If you go for fourteen days, you will feel like you have a different life. It is a simple practice.
Happiness: At the end of the day, with every single thing that you want in your life, you think you will feel better having it.
You can do it in less than five minutes a day but that consistency will help you choose happiness in the moment. At the end of the day, every single thing that you want in your life, everything that you think, being rich, having that relationship, being fit, being healthier and all of those things are because you think you will feel better in having them. Practicing a winning mindset can help you feel better even on the way. Give it a shot. Let me know what you think. You can always reach out to me. Go down to the bottom and Ask April. You and I can have a two-way conversation. Here’s to your success.