Bad days do not just happen. They are created by one simple habit you may not even notice. April Shprintz reveals the surprising cause of all your bad days and how a shift in mindset can stop them for good. Learn how to reframe your thoughts and build a better mindset today!
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This ONE Thing Causes ALL Your Bad Days – Stop Them Now!
I am so glad you are here. You saw the title, The One Thing That Causes All Your Bad Days, and you are guessing it is mindset. It’s a bit more technical. It’s one action that you take repeatedly that you may not even know you are taking, and it causes all your bad days, all your bad moments, all your everything, and it is this, “What you think about what you are experiencing.”
Give me a second here because you are going to be like, “No. I don’t think badly about the things that I’m experiencing.” Here’s the thing, sometimes you do it so quickly, so automatically you don’t even notice the thought that you are thinking about the experience. You think that is the experience. I’m going to give you some examples because this will be very helpful in getting you to pause and stop that practice and start to reframe those thoughts so that you can have less bad days and then get to the point where having a bad day or even a bad experience is such a rarity.
How To Reframe Your Thoughts
I’m going to give you examples, like if someone calls you stupid, if you think they are, then you are upset. If you think or know that they are wrong, you laugh because, “No, I’m not stupid. That’s hilarious.” If you know they are wrong, but you get mad, that could point to something else. For example, let’s say you do know that you are smart, but you are still mad. Maybe what you are mad about is the people that you are interacting with take you for granted or don’t see you for who you are. No matter what it is, it’s not the act of them calling you stupid that makes you angry. It’s what you think about it. While this can sometimes be hard for us to grasp, once you do, you have all the power.
I will give you another example. Your flight is hours late. It’s not the delay of the plane that causes the problem, it’s what we are thinking about it. If you think that it’s going to ruin your whole schedule for the day, you are upset, but let’s say instead, the thing that you thought is, “I’m hungry and now I have time to eat.” You are relieved, or you might even be happy. The experience didn’t change, what you thought about it did.
Most situations you are experiencing are all the same. It is just the thoughts that make the experience different. Share on XI will give you another one. You get laid off. I ran into a neighbor who got laid off, and interestingly, she took this first view. She thought they took advantage of her, they put her in a bad spot, and she’s angry and she’s hurt and she’s upset, and candidly, that’s also, as we all know, a victim mindset. Let’s say you, and this was true for her, wanted a better job anyway, because she was telling me that she had been thinking about quitting anyhow.
She could have chosen instead to say, “I wanted a better job and this will push me to get one.” Not only does she then feel better about the experience, she’s empowering herself instead of being a victim of what someone else does, she can be the hero of her own story and use this experience to find something even better. All of these things are the same situation in each instance of the way you are thinking about it. It’s the thoughts that make the experience different, and that is the entire purpose of learning to reframe, learning how to empower yourself and working on your mindset so you can have so many less bad days. For a lot of us, these thoughts happen so quickly and so automatically, we don’t even know they are happening until we start looking for them.
Check Out April’s Reframing Playlist
If this is something that you want to work on, I have a playlist that’s all about reframing because this is the number one thing you can do to make your life better. Get good at this. Do it so much that your unconscious mind does it for you automatically, and your experience of life will be completely different, and that is what I want for you. I want you to be as happy and excited every day as you deserve to be. Here’s to your success.
