Consider this: whenever something negative happens to us, there’s a flip side that’s potentially positive. So, if you’re going through a tough time right now, take heart. Good things can come from it. This goes for the people you know and care about, as well. Today, to give you inspiration to persevere through your tough time, April shares her Round Robin of Reframes. If you are struggling now, listen to this episode of the Winning Mindset Mastery Podcast. It will give you a powerful pick me up and open your mind as to what’s truly possible when you win at reframing!
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What we have for this episode is a reframe round robin. Why? It’s because I have had so many reframes floating around in my mind and thinking about as I’m having conversations with friends and clients and even strangers. Everything that we think of as a negative has another side to it. Some of the things that people would think they would never want to happen to them or never want to experience have such a great plus side.
Maybe if you’re in the middle of it. Maybe you know someone who is struggling with this particular thought or idea. I wanted to share with you these different reframes that I had because they can be powerful for someone when they need that particular pick-me-up. The more often you practice reframes, the better you get at it. You are teaching your mind to do these incredible shortcuts all on its own and it will start to reframe things for you.
Think about this. Your mind gets 2 million pieces of information every single second from all of your senses. Your conscious mind can process about 126 of them. Isn’t that crazy? The activities that you do the most, the pathways that you utilize in your mind through reframes and your winning mindset help you choose what you focus on. Of those 2 million things, what you’re focusing on is the most powerful 126.
Reframing: The activities that you do the most, the pathways that you utilize in your mind through reframes, and your winning mindset help you choose what you focus on.
This will help you do it. One of the biggest reframes that I hear from folks all the time and what I mean by that are things that need to be reframed. Folks who say, “I don’t have a lot of resources. I don’t have a lot of money.” I completely understand how challenging that can feel in the moment. If you’ve heard anything about my life story, I have lived that. I have gone through it.
What is incredible though is anyone who is at any time not had the amount of money that they needed or wanted has the opportunity to get good at creating and earning money. Those are opportunities that will stay with you throughout your life. When you say, “How is that such a big benefit?” People who are given money or who have had it all along do not have the confidence that if that money went away, they could get it again. If you have gone through the process of earning and creating money for yourself, you have the satisfaction of knowing no matter what happens, you could do that again.
Reframing: If you have gone through the process of earning and creating money for yourself, you have the satisfaction of knowing that no matter what happens, you could do that again.
I’ll never forget when I was in one of my first successful sales roles. I was in a company that was going through a drawdown and they were letting go of people. I’d been given fantastic advice to always stay close to the revenue and know that you are responsible for a good chunk of it that keeps you “safe.” It’s not foolproof but it works pretty well.
When someone said, “They could let go of anyone and you haven’t been here that long. What are you going to do?” I said, “I’m a hell of a waitress. I’ll figure it out.” That’s what I mean. When you know that you’ve made money before, the idea that you might not have the exact same salary or nest egg that you had before is nowhere near as daunting.
Another one, I had a lot of folks who have been struggling with their family structure. I’d like to dispel a myth for everyone while I’m talking about this. No one has a normal family. Everyone thinks everyone else has a normal family and theirs is crazy and they should keep it a secret. Maybe that’s just me, but no one has a normal family. You are not missing out on something that someone else has.
No one has a normal family. You are not missing out on something that someone else has. Share on XIt might look better from the outside. They might be much more polished at hiding their crazy but no one has a normal family. However, folks who don’t have a successful family, a lot of times, think, “I missed out. My parents could have taught me so much. They could have done this. They could have done that.” Here’s my reframe on that. I did not in any way, shape, or form come from a successful family.
The gift of that was this. One, no one told me what to do. Do you know what I mean when your parents, in their well-meaning way, map out the path for you and you may be 45 to 55 years old and they’re still telling you what they think you should do? If you don’t have super successful parents, they usually leave you alone and let you make your own choices. If they don’t, you have the ability to think, “They don’t have a life I would want, so I’m going to trust my own personal choices instead of worrying about the pressure from them.” Candidly, when I see some of the pressure that folks that I know are under because of expectations from their parents, I wouldn’t have traded it. No way.
I have another one. Someone was complaining, “I don’t pick things up very quickly. It takes me forever to get them. Once I have them, they’re nailed but I don’t pick things up very quickly.” Those people are fantastic at teaching things to other people. In order for me to teach people, I’ve got to slow myself down and make sure that I don’t skip any steps. It makes me pretty subpar as a teacher. I try hard and I want to help people.
When something doesn’t come naturally to you, you immediately become incredible at sharing with someone else how to do it. That makes you so valuable in so many ways to organizations, people, and things like that. When you think about something taking you a long time in that way and you’re frustrated, think about the fact that once you have it, you have it. You can impact the entire world by sharing that with somebody else.
Last one. I am on a round-robin of reframes. I was talking with someone else who felt like they should have had their entire world figured out and that they should know what they wanted to be when they grew up. This individual was in their late 40s and felt like they’d never figured it out. Here’s another secret. I don’t think anyone has it 100% figured out. They’ve got it decided on for now. If you think about that, how fun. Nothing’s decided forever.
Reframing: Instead of thinking that we should have all the answers about our careers and our lives, what if we let them unfold and surprise us in an exciting and fun way?
That means there are more opportunities and more exciting things. More fun things can come in your life, opportunities, and things that you can do that you don’t even know about yet. Let’s reframe that. Instead of thinking that we should have all the answers about our careers and our lives, what if we let it unfold and surprise us in an exciting and fun way? That’s it for our round-robin of reframes. If you have a situation you’d like me to reframe, go to the website WinningMindsetMasteryPodcast.com. Down at the bottom, you can Ask April. Share your situation with me and I will answer you personally and privately. Here’s to your success.