Life requires one thing if you want it to change: you must step into a new version of yourself. Whether it’s a bigger, better life or one that’s more peaceful and fulfilling, it won’t come without discomfort. Success starts with acknowledging that this transformation will be uncomfortable. Whether you’re starting a new career or making your health a priority, understanding where you are today, evaluating your surroundings, and embracing the challenge of growth will lead you to the life you truly desire. Here’s to becoming the person you were meant to be.
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The Life You Want Requires This One Thing
When I talk to folks about mindset, we are almost always talking about them wanting to have a different life in some way. The life that they want is always something bigger and better or even more peaceful and fun than the life they already have. In every case, it requires one thing. It wouldn’t necessarily be an easy thing if it’s just one thing, but it requires you to step into a different you to have that life that you want. You have to become different to have different.
Acknowledge The Discomfort
The first thing you have to do in any one of these situations is to acknowledge that it is uncomfortable. I have a client who’s been extremely successful at founding, growing, and exiting businesses. She has done amazing things and is stepping into a different career. That is not what she’s used to. She’s had such tremendous success that it’s uncomfortable for her to start something brand new, just like it is for all of us.
Acknowledge Where You Are Right Now
We have to just acknowledge that it’s uncomfortable. Even if the path that we’re taking is a little different than what we’ve done before, it doesn’t mean we aren’t going to be as successful as we have in the other areas. For some folks, what they have to do is acknowledge where they are. We’re saying it’s uncomfortable. Now we’re going to say, “Okay, I get where I am.”
This happened to me about a year and a half ago, where I was like, “I havenot been as focused on my health as I like to be. I have to make that a priority. I have to admit, I am not in the shape I want to be. I am not taking as good of care of myself as I want to because that is how I’m going to have the power to be different. I have to step into a different me, but in order to do that, I have to recognize where I am today. What’s the delta between who I want to be and who I am? How do I show up as that person?
I have to step into a different me, but in order to do that, I have to recognize where I am today. Share on XAcknowledge Who You Are Surrounded By
The third one is the toughest one for my clients. It was for me in years past, for anyone that I talked to, friends, etc. It is to acknowledge who you’re surrounded by. This one can be tough because sometimes the life you want requires you to be surrounded by some different people than you are today. Meaning, are the friends, family, and people that you spend most of your time with feel good to you? Does that support the goals you have, whether those goals are to build a business, or that goal is to have a certain career or certain relationship with your family that maybe they don’t prioritize?
Maybe your goal is just to be happy and at peace, and you come from a family that operates by guilt and responsibility. You have to understand who you’re surrounded by and listen to yourself about whether this feels like it is bringing you closer to your goal or if it feels like it’s bringing you further away. Your feelings are always going to tell you that.
We have been trained to ignore our feelings, “Let’s logic our way out of this. Let’s think through it.” No, I want you to fucking feel your feelings. The reason is they’re telling you something. They are telling you that the folks that you’re surrounded by might not be right for you. They are telling you that you are going to have to be uncomfortable for a little while to get the thing that you want. They’re telling you where you want to be is not who you are and where you are right now, so you have to change.
These things and understanding that you have to step into this different you, that one thing is going to get you to everything that you want. I gave you the three steps. I want you to acknowledge that it’s uncomfortable. Acknowledge where you are right now, and that there is going to be some work and effort in between where you are now and where you want to be.
Acknowledge who you’re surrounded by and whether they may not be serving you. Maybe you’re surrounded by people who are serving you, and that’s amazing. They’re going to help you become this better version of yourself. Spend more time with those folks. It can work either way, but if you do those three things, that’s going to help you do the one thing that’s going to get you the life you want, by stepping into the you that you were always meant to be. Here’s to your success.