Stuck In A Cycle Of Negative Momentum? THIS Will Get You Out!

You experience a series of bitter disappointments. Bad things keep happening. You can’t seem to catch a break. You struggle to believe things can turn around. Has this unhappy situation ever happened to you? If so, here’s some good news! Things can turn around. You can stop this downward cycle of negative momentum. You can enjoy victory after victory. You can get to a MUCH better place! And April can help you. In this episode, she reveals a simple yet powerful principle that helps you go from negative momentum to positive, the first step to changing the cycle of negative momentum, a story from her own life that will inspire you and help you get on the right track, and a simple exercise you can do that helps you get from where you are to where you long to be. Sound interesting? Then click here now to listen to today’s episode of Winning Mindset Mastery. To your success!

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Stuck In A Cycle Of Negative Momentum? THIS Will Get You Out!

I got a question from a reader who has several clients who have experienced serious disappointments in their lives. There are so many of them, and it has been happening for so long. They struggle to believe that things can turn around, and he wants to know if there’s something I could share that would help them. Absolutely.

The first thing is to recognize that momentum is a real thing, and it can work for you in a good way if you’ve got a lot of positive momentum going. As these folks are experiencing, it can work for you in a bad way as well. Some folks don’t like to talk about that because it’s scary. Knowing that is hugely empowering and can help you turn those things around. What I recommend for those folks is to understand that the more you focus on what’s going wrong, the more that you will unconsciously create more of that going wrong because we get what we focus on.

 

Going back to that Baader–Meinhof principle, that subconscious mind and how our mind is filtering millions of pieces of data every second and every minute. Our subconscious mind is deciding for us, “What am I going to put up to the conscious mind that you can handle dealing with right here and now?” The things that you focus on with your conscious mind help it decide what those things are going to be. The best way to demonstrate that is with the purchase of a new car.

You may never have seen that certain make, model, and color of the car before you purchased it. Once you did, you will see it on the road, on the highway, and parked in parking lots all over the place. Everyone didn’t go out and buy the exact same car as you at the exact same moment. It is that principle working. You’ve told your subconscious mind by focusing on and purchasing that car that it’s important, and now it is pointing it out to you in all these different places.

The way that can work for you is when you’re constantly focused on things you enjoy, on opportunities, and on things that you love about the way you feel, your subconscious mind is going to bring those up for you to notice them. It’s also going to bring opportunities, good things, and things that you want in your life to your attention so that you’ll see them more. It works the same way with things that you don’t like, negative things that are not working for you.

If you first understand, this is a real thing, you are on a roll with negative things, but you can change that. Knowing that you can change that is the first step to being able to change it. It might be hard to get there. That might be the hardest step. “I don’t believe you. Maybe for somebody else. This is not going to work for me.” I’ll give you some examples from my personal life and then an exercise that you can do so that you can figure out how to stop that momentum and cultivate this belief for yourself.

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In my college experience, I grew up in poverty. I had no way to go to college other than earning scholarships. I wanted to go to a certain university in Boston, which I got accepted to. Unfortunately, I did not get enough of a scholarship to be able to afford to go there. Candidly, it was a lot of poor planning, but I turned down a full-ride scholarship to a local school. I didn’t get to go to my dream school, and I had a lot of momentum of feeling sorry for myself for things not working out, of being worried and scared about the future.

I even applied to yet another school and got accepted, but unfortunately, by that point couldn’t even get financial aid because I was so far down in the process. I was in this place of that negative momentum. This was over about a six-month period. At this point, I didn’t know about turning things around, and I was trying to focus on whatever I could to get myself into a better place.

While I was going to the school that had offered me a scholarship paying to go there, it was a great lesson. I met someone who was in the service. He was in the military. I found out that I could audition to be a broadcaster and then I’d be able to have the job earlier. I would be able to do what it was that I wanted and I would get paid.

It was like, “This is great. I’m turning this momentum around.” That was an exciting experience for me. Again, I had no focus on mindset. I’m creating all of this unconsciously. I go to do the audition and I fail. I am still at this point now, 6 or 9 months, almost coming up on a year of this negative momentum, and not realizing how me focusing on how bad I feel is encouraging that momentum to keep going. Here’s the great news. No matter how down in the dumps you are, there are still little opportunities that come around to help get you in a better place.

The more that you try and focus on little things that you can find you like, that make you happy, that you enjoy, that you have gratitude for, the more likely you are to see those opportunities. At this point, I was at such a low place over, “I’m never going to go to college. I’m a loser. My life is over.” I’m not saying that flippantly. It’s just now, looking at it in hindsight, it was all such a gift. It’s hard to remember how bad it felt, but I’m in this really bad place. The recruiter asked me to help someone else audition for broadcasting.

 

If there’s one thing about my life that has always been true, it’s that nothing makes me feel better than to help someone. Even without knowing what I do about mindset, helping someone and focusing on that was a great way to stop that negative momentum and start some positive momentum. By the way, the person that I helped happened to be the one who said, “I don’t think you failed that audition for the reason you think you did. I think you had bad equipment.”

He was right. I was able to go back, redo the audition, make it into the Air Force, be a broadcaster, and got to broadcast on the top news show in the service. I had an amazing experience, which also afforded me to both go to college in undergrad and graduate school. The takeaway here for this is not, “Great. Good for you, April. You stopped the momentum. What does that mean for me?” It’s understanding that this is one of those situations that I can look back in my life and say, “I’m so glad it went that way.”

I learned so much, and my life ended up better than it would’ve been if I had just gone to college the normal way. You have these situations in your life too. When you’re in a neutral place, when you’re not already upset and focused on your negative momentum, I want you to think of those situations that at the time felt terrible, but later you realized taught you an important lesson you’d never want to do without or led you to an even better path.

This lesson I just talked about with you did both. 1) It reminded me that sometimes when you think everything is over, you’ve failed, and you’re down and out, there’s just some piece of information that you don’t know. 2) Sometimes taking a different route to where you want to go gets you there much faster. Had I gone to college to be a broadcaster, it would’ve taken me 4 to 6 years to be on the air at all. Going through the military to do it, it took me less than six months.

 

This is my action for you. I want you to write out those situations where bad things at the moment were happening for you, not to you. If you want me to answer a question live on the show, just let me know. Go to the website WinningMindsetMasteryPodcast.com. All the way down at the bottom, you can ask me your question personally. It’s Ask April. I can’t wait to hear from you. Here’s to your success.