When it comes to living life on your terms, the first step is simple: stop listening to those who don’t align with your vision. In this powerful episode, April Shprintz dives into how outside opinions can stifle your growth and why taking advice from the wrong people may hold you back. If you’ve ever questioned your potential or hesitated because of others’ doubts, this episode will give you the push you need to trust yourself and move forward boldly.
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Stop Listening To Bullsh*t From Bullsh*tters
I am so glad you’re here. Quick warning, if you’re reading this first thing in the morning or if you were hoping for the kindler, gentler April, this is a little more of a tough love one. Put on your crash helmet. If you have little ones in the car, it could be explicit so I’m going to warn you. This is about the people in your life who try to influence you, control you, and tell you the kind of life that you’re supposed to live.
Candidly, there is no supposed to. When it comes to other people telling you how you should be and directing the way that you should live your life, I want you to ask yourself one question. “Do I want their life?” If you don’t want their life, do not take their advice. Take advice from the kind of people that you want to have a life-like. None of us need any bullsh*t from bullsh*tters.
Don’t Take Advice From Bullsh*tters
Candidly, a lot of people are telling you, “You should be doing this and that. Don’t wait so long to have kids or don’t have kids so soon. Don’t go and pursue your dreams. Don’t you dare not get a college education. Don’t go and start that new business. Don’t do this new endeavor. Don’t get into this new relationship.” If they don’t have the business, life, physique, financial situation, and relationship that you want, you don’t have to take their advice. No one’s guidance is going to be better than your own.
Here's the thing: No one else is you. If there's a desire that you have, something you want to go for, it's because it is 100% possible for you. Share on XI encounter this so much with the people that I work with. They have been so conditioned because as kids, we are told and taught that we are good if we listen to the people in authority. Once you’re 18 years old, and for some of us who didn’t have the greatest parents, maybe when you’re 12 or even younger than that, you are the most capable person in your life to decide what you want for your life.
No One Else Is You
Look, some of these folks that I want to call bullsh*tters may have their best interest at heart. They may be coming from a place of they don’t want you to get hurt, fail, or fill in the blank. The thing is they are looking at your life through their lens. What you’re capable of could be far more than what they’re capable of. Even if they have good intentions, they could be holding you back. They could be saying, “Dull your shine. Get smaller. Don’t do this thing. Don’t be too big for your britches. Don’t go after your big dream. No one gets that.”
Here’s the thing. No one else is you. If there’s a desire that you have and there’s something you want to go for, it’s because it is 100% possible for you. If you’ve got people in your life who are telling you that you can’t and you don’t want their life, go ask that same damn question of someone who has it. I will tell you that people who have done what you want to do are not going to doubt that you can do it.
People who have the life that you want are not going to tell you it's impossible. They're going to help you get there. Share on XPeople Who Control Don’t Have Control
People who have the life that you want are not going to tell you it’s impossible. They’re going to help you get there. The only people who tell people what to do and try to control their lives are the people who don’t have the life they want. If they don’t have the life that they want, why would you want their life? If you don’t want their life, why would you take their advice?
You Are Special And Capable
This was inspired by several of my clients who’ve been having challenges in the past few weeks of standing up for themselves, their desires, and seeing how fucking special they are. If you’re having that same issue where you don’t know how special and capable you are and don’t know that you can do anything and everything you want to do, I am here to tell you, hell yes you can. Here’s to your success.
