What if one simple question could accelerate your progress and cut your path to success by two-thirds? Most people stay stuck not because they lack talent or effort—but because they’re asking the wrong questions. Today, we uncover the powerful shift that can transform hesitation into clarity and turn setbacks into momentum. If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and start moving toward your goals with purpose, this single question might be the breakthrough you’ve been waiting for.
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Asking This Question Will Get You To Your Goal 3 Times Faster
The Power Of Asking For Help To Achieve Goals Faster
I am so glad you’re here. Can you believe that there is one question you can ask that will get you to your goals three times faster? Just one simple question. Here it is. Will you help me with fill in the blank? That may seem so simple, but so many people try to do things 100% on their own. They’re afraid of asking for help because they’re afraid people will say no. They’re afraid of asking for help because they think people will see them as stupid, less intelligent, or not prepared.
They are afraid of asking for help because they think it means something if they did it completely on their own. It means nothing more than it took you longer than everybody else because no one who has had extreme success got there all on their own. Now look, there are lots of reasons that people do not want to ask for help. If you’re anything like me, there was a time in your life, in your childhood, in your young adulthood, when you really needed people to help, and they did not listen, or they did not follow through, or they just said no.
That made you feel like the only way that you could succeed in life is by doing everything on your own. That you should not take up too much space. You should not ask for too much. You should just do everything yourself. No matter who that person was or how long ago it happened, or if it happened to you recently, it is bullshit. Good people do want to help you.
No one who has achieved extreme success got there all on their own. Share on XThink about a three-year-old in the kitchen helping you cook. How many questions do they ask? “Why do we crack the egg like this? Why are we putting in the sugar now? Why does the oven have to be that hot?” They are learning things. They are gaining information that’s going to make them better. It’s not only going to make the project you’re working on right now go more quickly, but they’re also learning things that will help them with other things.
When You Ask For Help You Either Win Or Learn
Now, three-year-olds do this much more easily because they are naturally vulnerable. They will naturally be just who they are. For a lot of us, we were taught by feedback that we got from the people around us that who we were was not right. We had to put on a mask. We had to put on an acceptable persona, whether it was for our parents or teachers, coaches, or someone in our life who was very important to us and was in some caregiving role.
When we did that, we learned we cannot ask for help. The thing is that if you can unlearn that response that helped you then but is not helping you now, you can get to the things that you want now, so much more quickly. Now, some people are going to say, “I could ask for help, and somebody might be a real jerk about it.” That might happen. When you ask for help, you’re going to win, or you’re going to learn. You’re going to win because someone is going to help you, and you’re going to see that you are lovable, you are worthy, and anyone who is a good person is always going to be willing to help.
They are going to repeat your worst fear and not help you, or not show up. Say they’ll help you, but not actually come and help you, or just not respond or not be there for you. You win then because you see who those folks really are. The more people that you keep around you who are safe, who are helpful, who do care about you, the more successful you’re going to be overall and the happier you’re going to be overall.
To me, those folks who show you that they are the people who do not want to do things for you, but stayed around because the people that do not ask for help are usually the people that help everyone with everything, they stayed around because it benefited them. If you learn that about them, you can decide whether or not you want to keep them in your life. Guess what?
If you do not, that is addition by subtraction, because you can take all the time and effort that you poured into that person and pour it back into you. Ultimately, no matter what happens, learning to ask for help will make you happier, more successful, and it will allow you to grow more into the person you were always meant to be, which likely looks a lot more like that three-year-old version of you than the version of you you are today. Here’s to your success.
