Most people try to get rid of fear, push through it, or ignore it. But what if fear isn’t the problem? What if it’s actually trying to tell you something? In this episode of Winning Mindset Mastery, we explore a powerful shift: instead of asking how to eliminate fear, ask what fear is communicating to you. Because fear is information. It shows you what matters, points to deeper emotional triggers, and reveals when staying stuck is costing you more than moving forward. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by doubt or stuck between playing it safe and taking a leap, this episode will help you reframe fear—not as a stop sign, but as a signal for growth.
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The 3 Things Your Fear Is Trying To Tell You
I am so glad you’re here. The thing that my clients ask me the most when it relates to fear is, “How do I get rid of it? How do I push through this? How do I do this anyway?” The question I wish they would ask me is, “What is fear trying to tell me?” The secret that people rarely talk about is that fear has something to tell you and figuring out what that is, is the most important next step to get to where you’re trying to go on your journey.
Fear Means It Matters
The first thing fear is almost always trying to tell you and this is an and. It’s not an or. Fear tells you that whatever it is that you’re considering, contemplating, or trying to do is important to you. How do I know that? If it’s not important to you, you never feel fear. You feel disinterest. You like, “Not a big deal. I don’t care.” One of the reasons that it is important to you triggers fear. It’s because you care so much about what’s going to happen.
Fear Reveals Old Triggers
“Fear has told me that this is important to me.” Awesome. I needed to know that. What’s the second thing? This is one that can be a lot sneakier and harder for people to figure out. It points to a trigger or is a trigger. This thing that you’re trying to do, it is triggering something in you that reminds you of a long ago trauma or fear or inadequacy. Something that you dealt with. Those things are usually not good enough. Not safe to be seen. Not safe to succeed. Not able to be loved if I do this, this and this.
Fear has something to tell you—and understanding it is the most important next step on your journey. Share on XThese can be pretty deep things. I’m not saying you have to resolve them to get to the next step and do the thing you want to do. You do have to acknowledge that this fear isn’t about this next step I’m trying to take. This fear is about something else that I deal with in a lot of different areas. This is one of the times when I would say, it’s okay to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear Of Staying The Same
The third thing that fear is trying to tell you is a little sneakier, a little trickier because this one is when you think of not doing whatever it is that you’re looking to do. Not getting a new job. Not starting the new company. Not talking to that person that you have passed in the coffee shop four times already. This is the fear. That says, “What will happen if I don’t?” When you find yourself feeling that fear over and over again of, “What if I don’t?” I’m telling you. It is time to grow and change. That fear is actually working for you.
It is pointing to the fact that while it can be very comfortable to stay in the same place. It can also be boring. It can be life sucking. Sometimes, we’re just not carrot motivated. I wish we were all carrot motivated. Motivated to get the thing we want. For most of us, even if we are carrot motivated, we are way more stick motivated. Hence, the fear. Your fear is trying to tell you, “Do this thing or you’re going to be sad that you didn’t.”
The only thing you fear more than missing out on not doing it is failing at it. Share on XGoing back to that trigger, fear or failure, for most of us, this can feel so indecisive. You can feel like you cannot make a choice. The only thing you fear more than missing out of not doing it is failing at it. It can be paralyzing. If you’re one of those people that when you find something that you want to do, feels like you are almost paralyzed with indecision. Chances are you are stuck in between the trigger and the, it’s time to grow and change.
If that’s you my friend, I’ve got two things for you. Number one, feel the fear and do it anyway. You’re probably not going to fail. Even if you do, failing just means learning and you’ll win right after that. Number two, if you feel like this is absolutely impossible, you can’t do it. You need someone who you don’t know to help you figure this out. Don’t forget. You can always reach out to me personally on my website. It’s WinningMindsetMasteryPodcast.com. All the way at the bottom, there’s that Ask April section. That’s a real link to me. No one checks it, but me. I will answer you personally and privately and talk you through this next step.
Even if it’s scary as hell, I promise you. It is going to lead you somewhere far greater than you are now. The next time you find yourself just clenching up, freaked out and scared. Instead of thinking of it as a bad thing you want to get over it. I want you to think of it as something that your body, your consciousness, and your higher self is trying to tell you. Figure out what that is and you’re going to be halfway to doing what you want to do that’s new and scary in the best, most successful way. Here’s to your success.
