Think your mindset podcast can’t help improve your relationship? Think again. Today, April Shprintz shares one surprising, counterintuitive strategy that can instantly deepen your connection—especially if you’re a high-achiever who never asks for help. It’s simple, powerful, and something most independent go-getters avoid… until now. Tune in to discover how just four words could transform your relationships—and maybe even your life.
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An Unexpected Way To Improve Your Relationships
The Unexpected Power Of Asking For Help
I am so glad you’re here. You might not think of your mindset podcast as the place to go to make your relationship better, but here’s what I know. If you are tuning in to this show, then you are somebody who always goes the extra mile. You might be type A. You’re a high achiever, and you’re one of those people who are pretty independent and can do anything. I have an unexpected way that you can improve any relationship you have, and definitely your romantic relationships. If you are that person, this is something that you don’t do that often.
I was having a one-on-one call with one of my clients. We were talking about mindset and how all the information that you take in can impact your mindset and the way you feel about things. As you folks know, I don’t listen to or watch the news. Sometimes I’ll read it, but I’m very particular about what I let in. This particular client got a lot of information from her husband. She said, “I don’t know how to change that. I don’t know how to change when he is saying things that are not aligned with what I’m trying to do with my mindset.”
She is super successful and all of the things that I mentioned earlier. I said, “I know exactly how you do this. I need you to talk to him and say, ‘Sweetheart, I need your help with something.’ Those words may not seem that powerful to you, and you may say, ‘I never ask anyone for help.’ That’s why they’re so powerful.” The less that you ask the people in your life for their help, the more they will like to help you. If you’re super independent and super successful, you don’t often give them the opportunity. By the way, you’re probably someone who loves to help people. Think about how much you love that.
The less you ask the people in your life for help, the more they actually want to help you. Share on XVulnerability & Deeper Connection Through Asking For Help
There’s a level of vulnerability in asking for people’s help that can be uncomfortable for a lot of us. I’ll be candid with you. I don’t think I asked anybody for their help until I was in my 40s, because when I was a kid, if I asked for help, that need wasn’t met. I had a huge fear of it, and I didn’t want to ask for it. What I found was that when I started putting myself out there and asking people for help, whether it was with information or helping me learn something new, or helping me with things in the house, whatever it was, those people and I were brought closer by me being willing to share that vulnerability, and also by giving them the chance to show up for me the way that I would show up for them.
This may seem so counterintuitive, but asking the person in your life for help that you never asked for before could lead you to become much closer and improve your relationship. Just a side note, if you happen to be in the sales industry, a lot of times you’ll find that as you’re building relationships with people, if you ask them for help in the form of what’s your advice, what’s your opinion, or what are your thoughts, that will ingratiate you to that person and deepen that relationship as well, even if it’s more surface-level.
This is a counterintuitive way to improve relationships with people that many of us aren’t doing, especially if you’re that independent and high-achieving person. I want you to try it, and feel free to reach out to me. Don’t forget, you can always ask me a personalized question on my website. You just go to WinningMindsetMasteryPodcast.com. All the way down the page, there’s a little Ask April section. The great thing about it is that it goes directly to my personal email. I answer it myself privately and personally for you. Let me know how this works for you, or if you cannot ask someone for help, I want you to message me and tell me why. Here’s to your success.
