What if the key to transforming your life wasn’t in the hands of others—but in the way you treat yourself? In this episode, April Shprintz flips the script on self-care and self-worth. You go out of your way to be kind to your partner, friends, and colleagues—but how do you treat you? Your inner dialogue shapes your reality, and it’s time to start treating yourself like your own best friend. Join April as she explores simple yet powerful shifts to boost self-kindness, self-celebration, and confidence—because the way you treat yourself teaches the world how to treat you. Are you ready to change the conversation in your head and attract the respect and love you truly deserve?
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The Perks Of Being Your Own Bestie
How You Treat Yourself Shapes How Others Treat You
I am so glad you’re here. I have a question for you. How is your relationship with you? Here’s what I mean, we go out of our way to be kind to our partner, kids, best friends, clients, and co-workers, but how are you treating you? Working on your mindset can fundamentally change the way that you treat you and guess what? If you change the way that you treat you, it will change the way everyone treats you. It is incredible because we teach people how to treat us and we accept the treatment we think we deserve.
The treatment we think we deserve comes more from our own self-talk and the way that we speak to ourselves and we treat ourselves than anything else. Here are some ways to treat yourself even better. Ask yourself some questions. Maybe you don’t treat yourself well. Maybe you won’t be treating yourself even better. Maybe this will be when you stop treating yourself like shit and I don’t mean that in a negative horrible way. The thing is, a lot of people are amazing to everyone else or terrible to themselves and you deserve better than that.
I want you to be your bestie, so ask yourself these questions. How do I talk to me? Do you talk to you in the same kind way you would talk to someone that you know, like, and respect? I bet you talk to them better than you talk to you and that’s not fair. You deserve your best inner dialogue. What are the things that you do for you? Do you know how we’re always thinking of special things to do for the people that matter to us, make them feel good, appreciated, and loved? Do you do that for you?
We’re always thinking of special things to do for the people who matter to us—things that make them feel good, appreciated, and loved. Do you do that for yourself? Share on XIf you don’t, I want you to sit down after you read this episode and make a list. Make it on your phone or on paper. I don’t care, but make a list of things that you like to do for you. Candidly, if you can’t think of it because you don’t do things for yourself, make a list of things that you like when other people do them for you then try and find a comparable thing that you can do for yourself. It can be something little. It can be, I like to go and sit in the sunshine. I like to go and color. I like to go shopping.” Whatever it is. Make a list of things that you can do for you.
Here’s one, do you give yourself the benefit of the doubt? Do you know how when your front screws up your bestie and you say, “That’s not normal for them. They must be having a bad day.” When you screw up, you’re like, “What the hell is wrong with you?” Why don’t we start giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt because the more we do that, the better we will feel about ourselves. The better energy will project out into the world and the better energy the world will project right back at us.
Do you celebrate and congratulate you? I had a client who was excited about a building that she has for her business going under contract so she could sell it. She was super happy that it happened but she wasn’t taking any credit for it. She wasn’t congratulating herself for doing the things that ended up getting the offer on the building. I asked her, “If that wasn’t going well, would you be hard on yourself?” She was like, “I don’t think so,” but she wasn’t sure. She wasn’t congratulating herself for what she did.
Become your own bestie. When you do, you’ll become pickier about the people in your life. You’ll expect better treatment because you’re treating yourself better. Share on XBecoming Your Own Bestie And Celebrating Yourself
Now, you would congratulate your actual bestie. You would give your kids the affirmations of, “Great job. You did amazing.” You’d do it for your employees, your team, and your partner. When are you going to start celebrating and congratulating you? Here’s the last question and the answer to this is probably no because it’s no for most of us. Do you see yourself objectively? Here’s what I mean. We tend to overestimate everybody else and underestimate ourselves.
I want you to ask some people that you trust, some good people, what they see in you that they think you may not see in yourself. I bet there are some amazing stuff about you that you’re overlooking and ignoring. What I want is for you to become your own bestie because when you become your own bestie, you then become pickier about the people who are in your life. You expect better treatment because you’re treating yourself better. Guess what? We know this for mindset. We get what we focus on. If you’re focused on treating yourself well, what do you think you’re going to see more of in your life? Exactly what you deserve. Here’s to your success.
