If you were to point at the person or the thing that caused almost all of your problems, where would you point? In this empowering episode, April Shprintz reveals why blaming others is the number one thing that takes away your personal power. Learn how to break free from the victim mentality and embrace the power of personal responsibility. No matter what challenges you face, there’s always something you can change within yourself to create a different outcome. Tune in to learn how to become the hero of your own story and take control of your life.
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Stop Doing THIS To Become More Powerful
I am so glad you’re here. I have a super important question for you. If you were to point at the person or the thing that caused almost all of your problems, where would you point? Now, if you pointed at yourself, you are way ahead of the power curve. If you were thinking about the question and the people or the things that came to mind were your mother-in-law, your kids, your boss, the weather, politics, traffic, taxes, social media, or the person in front of you in line at Starbucks, then you’re doing the number one thing that takes your power away. You’re blaming others.
The Blame Game: Why It Takes Your Power
That means whether you want to hear it or not, you’re being the victim. The thing is, we’ve talked about being the victim. It’s fucking sexy. Why? It’s because you don’t have to be to blame. When you aren’t to blame, you have nowhere to go. That means that you’ve got to wait for the economy to change, or your mother-in-law to be different, or your kids to stop being teenagers. By the way, that takes way longer than you think. When you are at the mercy of other people changing for your life to get better, for you to have real power, you are in a place that is miserable, but you’ve created it in your own mind.
When you are at the mercy of other people changing for your life to get better, for you to have real power, you are in a place that is miserable that you've created in your own mind. Share on XNone of those people and none of those things have to change for you to have an entirely different life. The only thing that has to change is for you to stop blaming others. Stop being a victim. No matter what the situation is, there’s something you can change within yourself, with your behavior and with where you are in life that will change everything about what is causing problems for you. If it’s that easy, why wouldn’t everyone do it? It’s because not everyone noticed. It’s sneaky. Blaming others is something that the entire world does. It’s become our habit.
Everything Starts And Ends With You
We’ve done it since we were kids. I’m raising my hand as the kid who got caught with my hand in the cookie jar and pointed at the dog. Now, the dog couldn’t get up on the counter. Nobody bought that, but at age 2 or 3, I already felt like it was better to blame someone else. The thing is, when you start with yourself when you decide that however, you feel, whatever you’re experiencing or whatever’s going on, starts and ends with you and the way that you’re thinking about it, you have all the power in the world.
If your mother-in-law irritates you every time you talk to her, put some boundaries around the amount of time you’re going to spend with her or reframe how you see her. She may be annoying as all hell but when you think about it, she’s coming from a place of caring about you and trying to help. She just doesn’t really know how to do it. When you’re super upset about your traffic commute every morning and how it’s terrible. Everyone’s on the road and you feel like you’re always late. You’re in control of that.
You could decide to go to work earlier or go in later and either leave later or go home earlier. You’re going to say, “My boss wouldn’t let me do that.” You’re in control of that, too. Perhaps if you approached him or her in a creative way and asked for their help, they would let you do that. If they won’t, you’re in control of whether or not you work there or not, or go and work somewhere else. No matter what you’re thinking, it’s someone else’s fault and beyond your control. There is a way that you can control it. You are the hero of your own story.
You are the most powerful person in the world when it comes to your life. The moment you accept that responsibility, you become empowered to do anything and everything you want. Share on XYou are the most powerful person in the world when it comes to your life. The moment you accept that responsibility, you become empowered to do anything and everything you want. I promise you this will be a game changer. Decide, I’m going to be the hero. What would the hero of this story do? Start reframing the things that are happening to you as happening for you to help you step up and have the life you’ve always wanted. Here’s to your success.
