There are certain times when life sucks, and it seems like we cannot do something about it. But when things do not go your way, you can always do something to overcome your hurdles instead of sulking in them. April Shprintz offers a simple yet effective way to get through your hardships in life, with time as the main element.
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Do THIS When You Feel Like Life Sucks
I am so glad you’re here. What do you do when you’re in super hard times? What do you do when life sucks? Do you reach out to people that you know and trust that you look up to? For me, I know when I had a divorce in my early 30s and I found that pretty devastating, I reached out to my friends and people that I admired.
I certainly had friends in the C-Suite reach out to me during 2020. A lot of people were let go even if their business was doing really well because folks were having these knee-jerk reactions. People were like, “We want to put in this old leader because we don’t know how to handle these new times,” which made no sense to me. Folks are reaching out. They want help. I have counseled many people I know, whether acquaintances, good friends, or even family, on their businesses or a lot of those folks who had businesses that were failing that they were looking to turn around.
What To Do When Life Sucks
People are always wondering, “What do I do? What is the number one thing that I can do when life sucks and things are not going well for me?” It’s the simplest answer. When you tell people, sometimes, it’ll piss them off, but it’s so true. When you’re experiencing this, go to your phone. I want you to open up the calendar, fast forward from now to a year from now, and mark on there how this challenge is now.
No matter how tough something is, no matter how hard it seems, and no matter how it seems like this is never going to end, this is never going to get better, or nothing is going to work, in a year, it is going to be an entirely different situation. We want to do the proactive things we can do. We want to work on reframing things. We want to utilize our mindset to see things as happening for us, not happening to us.
By marking that year from now and saying, “What are things like right now?” you are pushing forward in time with your mind and understanding that things pass no matter how difficult they are. Sometimes, time is the biggest benefactor that we have. It really helps us see things in an incredibly different way. Nothing, no matter how hard it is or how good it is, is going to last forever. Things are going to ebb and flow.
Nothing, no matter how hard it is or how good it is, is going to last forever. Things are going to ebb and flow. Share on XOnce you’re doing that work to make sure that you’re addressing whatever happens to you from a more tactical level, my biggest strategy is to mark that down in a year and then even go and journal. Ask yourself, “What is my life going to be like in this situation a year from now?” Do it when it feels good. Do it when you can imagine this all being better or the dust being settled. Do it when you can imagine that you’ve found the job or you’ve turned around your company. Do it when you can imagine that you are in a better place with your relationship. Once you do that and you take that 30,000-foot view, get a little more objective, and give it a year, it’s incredible to think of what can happen.
Why Should I Do This?
If you’re having a hard time with this and you’re like, “This is the lamest advice ever,” I want you to think about something that happened to you that was really upsetting a year ago and have you think about where you are with it now. Maybe it was a breakup. Maybe it was someone that you cared about that is no longer with us. Maybe it was what seemed like a tragedy at the time in other people’s lives or even in yours, but since you are a year past it, you can see the benefits that happened as well. Taking the time to “give it a year” and marking that down on your calendar, you’re trusting that things are happening for you. All you’ve got to do is pay attention and figure out how.
Keep taking those regular actions and keep doing the tactical things, but remember that time is your friend, and time is going to help. A year from now, you’re going to completely understand why it happened, why you’re glad it happened, and how it happened for you. Even on your worst day, when you feel like life sucks, I want you to give it a year. Here’s to your success.
